Peaceful parenting is not something everyone can do. The reason is that each person belongs to a certain category related to the emotional management abilities and behaviors. But, peaceful parenting is the ultimate solution if you want your kids to be respectful, self-disciplined and confident. There is also no denying the fact that it is difficult to keep up with the ideal parenting requirements because children take a lot of time to adopt the mature way of behaving with the other people. Sometimes, the children’s behavior can be quite irritating for the parents. But, punishing the children in order to ‘teach’ them some manners is never a wise idea. It usually happens when we get influenced by the emotions and act upon them.
Now, it’s worth mentioning here that parents need to ride the extreme emotions and feel them deep inside them while keeping their outlook calmer. It is commonly referred to as embracing the emotional self. But, doing so is never easy given the fact that we often have to go through tough situations on daily basis. So, it becomes quite easier to empty the mental bucket full of anger on the ones who are younger but are the dearest ones to us.
Nevertheless, one needs to deal with these emotions because children are the most vulnerable beings who are sensitive enough to get hurt due to an eyebrow gesture. So, it remains and ultimate requirement for the parents to practice the emotional regulation even for the toughest of situations so that parenting doesn’t get affected.
There are certain things that you can consider in order to keep yourself calm and peaceful even during the tense situations related to parenting.
Be mentally prepared
Everybody wants to cherish the quality moments with kids. But there can be bad moments when you are stressed and children make tantrums to add into your misery. While you can hope for the better moments as you should, being mentally prepared for the worse moments helps you to tackle the situation in a better way. While preparing for the bad moments, imagine being in the line of fire coming from all the directions. From there, you can plan for the possible solutions without losing your cool.
Get the foods ready ahead of time
Get help from your spouse in preparing the food in the weekends. That will help you to free your time during the week days. You can use that free time to get closer to your kids. Remember, children need connection with the parents in order to stay on the course. Loss of connection frustrates them in a way you can never imagine.
If you are prone to get high tempered while dealing with the kids or your children are hyperactive, you can take some breaks in order to get back to the normal emotional state. This is called timeout. You can use that break to meditate of do some yoga to breath out the anger and frustration which keeps building over time.